Post written by: an anonymous follower and fellow police wife. This idea of Black vs. Blue is something I never thought I would feel the need to address. But before I get into in all that, let me tell you a bit about me. I am a 32-year-old successful Hispanic female who was born in Colombia and adopted at 7 weeks old. I am also married to an incredible black man who has a career in law enforcement. Growing up, my parents always promoted my Colombian background as much as they could. But before turning 18 and going to college, I had only ever had a few Asian friends, 1 Hispanic Click for more
Social Media Privacy Tips that Every Police Wife Should Take Now
Given the current climate surrounding law enforcement, privacy for police wives is imperative. We must take the proper precautions to make our social media pages and accounts more private. Last year I wrote a blog post all about keeping your officer's information private on the internet but sadly, we are now in the day and age where, we as spouses, need to be very careful, too. I know we can't live in fear but we should never be in a position where our privacy is questioned. There are safe ways to stay in contact with people you trust, have a positive social media experience all while Click for more
Tips for Starting your Own Police Spousal Group
This is honestly such a popular question that I get asked ALLLL the time. Mostly from police wives that want to start a local spousal group through their agency or in the area where their spouse works. And it is no wonder that this is such a popular question: as spouses of police officers, we need support. Most of us long for friendship with others that experience the same journey as us. We are looking for people who "get it". Spousal groups can be so beneficial and wonderful if done in the right way. They can not only be a great way to find friendship but they can also serve to be an Click for more
10 Assumptions People Need to STOP Making About Law Enforcement Officers
Many people have polarizing views about law enforcement that seem to change at the drop of a hat. A few months ago, law enforcement and all essential workers were held on a high pedestal for all they did during COVID-19. Now we see a complete shift and law enforcement feels like one of the most hated professions out there. With that have come nasty assumptions about law enforcement officers as a whole that are simply NOT TRUE. While some of these assumptions we have always heard, there are others that we are hearing LOUDER and MORE OFTEN than ever before. Lately, I feel like a Click for more
Dear Police Wife, I See You (An Open Letter to Police Wives/Girlfriends)
To my fellow police wives/girlfriends, I see you. I see you hurting. I see your fear. I see the pain in your eyes. I see you changing your social media name and pictures and locking down your accounts for your safety. I see you telling your children that you can no longer tell people about what their parent does for a living because it puts you in danger. I see your tears the moment your officer drives away and the moment he/she pulls off that vest. I see it because I live it along with you. This post has been in my draft folder for over a week but it hurt to Click for more
5 Ways to Best Clean & Care for a Bulletproof Vest
This is a sponsored post on behalf of Arrest My Vest. All opinions are honest and my own. You hear that beautiful sound of velcro as soon as your officer walks in the door and you can finally breath a sigh of relief. Then it hits you, the horrible smell that comes along with wearing a vest during the hot summer heat. But just how do you clean it and get the smell away? I have talked with so many wives/girlfriends that are afraid to touch the vest in fear of ruining the ballistics but you actually can care for it as long as you follow these easy steps. Ways to best care for a Click for more
How to discuss hatred for police and racism with your children
As a mother of three and former educator I know how difficult it can be to answer hard questions. Right now, it feels even harder as the wife of a police officer because we are having discussions about both the hatred police are facing and racism in the world. We want peace and understanding for both situations, which many people don't understand. I went back and forth on whether my kids were too young to know about what is happening in the world right now, but the fact of the matter is, we can't ignore it. Our children know our stresses, they feel the tension. They may even Click for more
Being a Police Wife when the World Hates your Spouse
Hate. It is a strong word, but the only word I can use to describe the nightmare we are in right now. Normally the posts you find on my blog are how-to's or advice on how to navigate something in police wife life, but this is a bit different. That's because our world is different. This post is my entire heart in written form because I love someone who loves his job no matter how difficult it is right now, yet, he is hated for it. I am fighting back tears just to see the keys on my keyboard to type this but it is important for me to write this and to be a VOICE for my fellow police Click for more
How to be supportive during a crisis as a law enforcement spouse
Sadly, as a spouse of a law enforcement officer, we are going to see our spouses/partners experience many difficult situations throughout their career. Whether that is a hard call, an OIS (officer involved shooting), difficulties within a department, or major incidents that make national headlines. All of these are difficult in their own way and they can be even harder to navigate as individuals, law enforcement couples and as a blue community. Whatever the case may be, you may need support as a spouse/partner AND want to know ways to support your officer during a time of need. Please Click for more
Debunking divorce rates in police marriages
This is a post that has been in my draft folder for months. It is one I should have written sooner- way sooner. Divorce rates among law enforcement marriage is a topic that our community hears about all the time. Nearly every week when I scroll Facebook or in a closed group for law enforcement wives, I see posts starting with "given the high divorce rate for law enforcement.....". Or I receive DMs on social media from police girlfriends/fiancés about how to prepare their relationship given the "current statistics". These posts break my heart every. single. time. Why? Because the Click for more
Quick & Easy Air Fryer Donut Holes (only 3 ingredients)
I was looking for a quick and easy treat to make for my husband during Police Week since a lot of our plans got canceled this year and it also had to be kid-approved. Police officers eating donuts is this ongoing joke so I figured why not change things up a bit and try homemade air fryer donut holes. These donuts are made from canned or frozen (needs to thawed) biscuit dough. And the two other ingredients you most likely have on hand already in your pantry. The kids and I are whipping these up for my husband during Police Week but honestly, they are good any time of the year! Need Click for more
Gifts for Police Week that can be Shipped to your Door
Every May when Police Week rolls around I am always asked about gift ideas for the officer in your life. And whether you have time to shop or you don't, these gift ideas for Police Week ship right to your door super quickly. While Police Week is a week to remember and honor the fallen, it is also a time to show gratitude for those serving on the front lines every single day. Below are great gift ideas that my own officer owns and loves that are perfect gift ideas for Police Week or any time you want to show appreciation to law enforcement! Great Gift Ideas for Police Week for Law Click for more
Must Have Mother’s Day Gift Ideas for Police Wives
Mother's Day is right around the corner. If you are like me, you want to scream off the rooftops to your spouse what you want for Mother's Day, but you like to be surprised. You secretly hope your spouse will figure it out on his/her own but that doesn't always happen, right? So just share this post or drop some hints to spark some ideas. :) So I know some of us like actual gifts for Mother's Day, birthdays, etc. You enjoy having a gift handed to you and being surprised. If you are like me, you don't buy yourself much, so you may have been eyeing something for a while and Mother's Day would Click for more
How to Show Support to Law Enforcement during National Police Week (even if you can’t attend in person)
Living so close to DC, we always find at least one day each year to attend National Police Week. As a law enforcement family, it is a way for us to pay our respects to fallen officers and their families from the previous year. It is also a time to come together to show one another support and participate in events and experiences that are police-related. We also love thanking fellow law enforcement for their sacrifices every day. This year National Police Week is Sunday, May 12th-May 18th, 2024. Thousands of officers and their families travel to DC to participate in the many Click for more
12 unique date nights to do at home for law enforcement couples
Planning date nights and time to go out can be hard for any first responder couple. You make plans, they may change and it is never easy to reschedule. Planning date nights at-home are a great way to make sure you get quality time with your spouse while maybe even saving some money in the process. And, date nights at-home don't have to be boring or the same old thing. This list is creative, fun and super easy to plan! RELATED POST: 35 INEXPENSIVE DATES FOR POLICE COUPLES Creative date nights to do at home: Surprise dates for your spouse/partner I love this idea! You and Click for more
At-home must watch movie list for police couples
Whether you are stuck at home or needing quality time with your spouse and going out is too daunting, then must-have movie list (and shows) is perfect for any police couples. After we (or our officers) have worked long days or if we have limited time with our spouse, sitting down, relaxing and watching a great movie or show is sometimes all we need. Since everyone has different taste, this post is divided into two sections: police-related movies/shows and non-police-related. My officer and I enjoy police themed shows once in a while, but I realize some don't at all. So these different Click for more
How to pray for law enforcement daily
This is a guest post by the author of Bulletproof Marriage, Adam Davis. These are the days the sheepdog was born to thrive in. But, ladies and gentlemen, these are times for every American to rise up and shine with the goodness and resiliency that define the core of who we are! While we are being challenged in many ways and should be praying for our leaders, those suffering and sick, and our own families, we should not neglect the proper method of prayer. For many years, I fired “birdshot” prayers. But friends, if you want to activate the open heavens, our prayers must be Click for more
9 Tips & Resources for Shift Workers Working during COVID-19
It is no doubt that the news and media are flooding your feeds regarding COVID-19. Schools are closed, cancellations are happening and many are working remotely. However, a lot of us forget about the countless number of dedicated men and women continuing to serve our communities despite COVID-19. Hospital workers, EMTs, fire, police, just to name a few, continue to work around the clock and just because COVID-19 is here, does not mean their work stops. In fact, for many shift workers, their work and caseloads are increasing. This is a stressful time, but even more so for shift workers Click for more
How law enforcement officers can be more germ-cautious
Right now the only thing you see on the internet, social media and news outlets are stories about the ever-growing virus plaguing the world right now. But the bottom line is, law enforcement officers are exposed to many things all the time, some worse than others, so it is always a good idea to know how to be germ-cautious in that line of work. This is NOT a post about scare tactics or fear-mongering. Instead, this is a way to answer the many messages I am getting about tips to best prepare as a law enforcement family. While many people (some, definitely not all) are able to work Click for more
The second annual police wife conference- register now!
Have you heard? The Police Wife Conference is coming back for a second year! The Second Annual Police Wife Conference will be held from April 20-24, 2020 and registration is now OPEN!! So what is it? The Second Annual Police Wife Conference is a week long, virtual event where you will have access to 10 experts speakers in the law enforcement community. So you can watch and listen from your PJs if you want! Once you register, you will create a login and password for the conference portal where you will access all conference material starting April 20th, 2020. And, to make Click for more
Behind the Badge: What Police Officers Wish their Spouses Knew
This is a guest post by the author of Bulletproof Marriage, Adam Davis. I’ll never forget the day we walked into the police department for my swearing-in ceremony. It was a big deal to me, even though I was in full uniform, with an empty holster. They gave me a badge, but wouldn’t issue me a gun right away. I reckon that was smart thinking on their part. We were still “young,” and by young, I mean naive. I had no idea what to expect as a rookie law enforcement officer, and neither did my wife. There would be challenges ahead, no doubt. But the mountains we were going to climb? Someone Click for more
Are police wives really solo parents?
Okay, let's get down to it. We constantly hear that as police wives we are destined to be solo parents. But is this the truth? Or is this just another scare tactic that people are telling you. Yes, our spouses work a lot and shift work can make parenting challenging. But does that mean you are going to be a solo parent because your spouse has an opposite shift than you and the rest of the family? We are going to dive deep on this topic and hear the opinions of fellow police wives. I polled law enforcement wives on different platforms and here is the honest truth regarding solo parenting Click for more
Last-minute Valentine’s Day gift ideas for police couples
This post is sponsored by Arrest My Vest. All opinions are honest and my own. Valentine's Day or Galentine's Day? Truly, you could celebrate both as a spouse or girlfriend of a police officer. If you don't really celebrate Valentine's Day then this post may not be for you; however, if you do celebrate AT SOME POINT, then this post should give you some gift ideas as a police couple. I say "at some point" because with our spouse's schedules, you could celebrate the week before, the day before or day after, or the weekend after, depending on when your spouse is off. The bonus to that Click for more
Easy thin blue line string art
I love creating inexpensive, DIY projects and I have been wanting to create thin blue line string art for months and there is no better time with Valentine's Day right around the corner. I have always been impressed by beautiful string art photos that I see on Pinterest, but I have to be honest, actually creating one intimidated me- until now! You will be so impressed with how easy this project is and the best part, it does not break the bank. DIY thin blue line string art: The first step to making your own thin blue line string art is to decide what design you want your string art Click for more
3 ways to have more quality time with your officer
This is a sponsored post on behalf of DateBox Club. All opinions are honest and my own. Nothing can be more stressful than trying to plan time with your spouse when their work schedule is crazy. Believe me, I have been there. Sometimes you feel like ships in the night never knowing when you will cross paths again. With my husband's schedule often being opposite of mine, it has always been a little hard to get quality time together. Add 3 kids to the mix and it just became harder. It left us with no other choice than to PLAN time together as best as we could so that we could make Click for more
Day shift vs. night shift: pros and cons for police families
The original idea for this post came from a past article I wrote regarding things that always seem to happen when you have a spouse working night shift. The response was overwhelming (in a good way) and many of you asked for pros and cons of night shift vs. day shift, so here we are. Shift rotations are tricky, for sure. What works for me may not work for you and your family. In addition, your shift preference may change depending on what season of life you are currently going through. When thinking about day shift vs. night shift keep in mind that there is no one-size-fits-all. Many Click for more
Here’s how this retreat center is using wellness practices to train combat veterans and first responders
This is a sponsored post on behalf of Boulder Crest Retreat. All opinions are honest and my own. The need for support for combat veterans and first responders is growing immensely. They experience events that many of us don't see in a lifetime. The world often sees the events and trauma that first responders and military members experience as "part of the job". But these service members are just like you and me. They are people, friends, neighbors. They have emotions; they have faced difficult experiences, and those experiences build up over time leaving these men and women looking for Click for more
Easy ways to boost energy for police officers
This post is sponsored by Millecor. All opinions are honest and my own. As police wives we hear it all the time- our officers are tired. Long hours, shift changes/rotations, crazy calls, night shift- the list goes on and on. Coupled with the fact that it is winter and we have reduced day light, it is hard for our officers to have the energy they need while on shift. As a wife, the last thing I want is for my spouse to go to work tired, stressed with low energy. And I am always asked about ways to boost energy for police officers that's realistic. Here are some sure fire, healthy ways Click for more
12 bucket list goals for the New Year for first responder couples
More often than not, we come up with goals and resolutions for just ourselves, which is great, but it is also nice to think about what we can do in the New Year as a first responder couple. First responder couples never take time for granted and one thing I know is that they try to maximize the time they have. It is so important for you and your spouse to connect and keep that connection alive. What better way to do that than to set aside time every few weeks/month for one another? Here are some great ways to make time for one another each and every month this New Year. 12 bucket list Click for more
Why you need an emergency binder as a law enforcement family
Life is inherently dangerous- we know this, right? But being married to a police officer brings this whole new level of awareness for the need to be as 'safe' as possible. (I quote 'safe' because it is a word that is relative and has a different meaning to each of us and our lives). Some of us have real fears and worries about our officer's job and when they strap that vest on. Others have dealt with said fears and you may see your spouse's job as just that, a job. Instead, you may feel the need to just want to be organized in case an emergency arises. Both are good and valid reasons Click for more