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Nothing can be more stressful than trying to plan time with your spouse when their work schedule is crazy.
Believe me, I have been there. Sometimes you feel like ships in the night never knowing when you will cross paths again.
With my husband’s schedule often being opposite of mine, it has always been a little hard to get quality time together. Add 3 kids to the mix and it just became harder.
It left us with no other choice than to PLAN time together as best as we could so that we could make quality time a priority within our busy lives.
But just how do you get more quality time around unpredictable schedules?
How to get more quality time with your spouse:
Make time together a priority and schedule your time.
I get it. It doesn’t exactly feel romantic when you have to plan everything, but if you don’t plan it, then I am telling you right now, it is probably not going to happen. And getting quality time with your officer is important.
You literally have to get out a calendar, sit down or talk on the phone, and sync your lives together. Look at your calendars together and decide what day or days will be best for time together.
Then make a promise to not let anything sabotage that time. You have to be in the mindset that your time as a couple is of the highest priority. It is what will set the foundation for many other areas of your lives together.
Build in date nights every single month.
Remember how I said on the last tip that you need to sync up your calendars? This is what I mean.
You need to build in a date night AT LEAST once a month.
For those of you that feel like that is nearly impossible, here are some helpful tips:
-look for small pockets of time together. You may not get an entire day, but maybe one afternoon or one evening for two hours. Use that time- take advantage of it.
-don’t let anything interrupt your time. Put away your phones and all distractions so you can focus on getting quality time with your officer.
-commit to doing something with only the two of you. If you have little ones and can’t get out of the house, then plan a date night at home. You can put the kids to bed and start your date once they are asleep. We do this all the time!
–Grab a DateBox Club! We recently checked out DateBox Club and let me tell you- it was PERFECT for the law enforcement lifestyle.
Initially, we planned to do our date night-in on a Tuesday night but he got held up at work. With DateBox Club, it was no problem! We already had everything we needed for a quick, wonderful date at home so we moved our date night-in to Wednesday instead and didn’t have to rearrange our schedules greatly.
We put the kids to bed, grabbed a bottle of wine and opened our DateBox Club! It came with detailed instructions on what to do, a delicious popcorn snack and fun activities- the box was filled with everything we needed.
Every DateBox Club box is different every single month, but this month was seriously so perfect for law enforcement life! We took a quiz based on the five love languages so we could learn how each of us gives and receives love, planned some yearly goals as a couple, listened to their spotify music list and more!
We had an absolute blast and our favorite part was the conversation it initiated. It was so nice to just talk about us for a change- not the kids, not work, just US.
DateBox Club is a subscription box service and you can buy one month at a time or sign up for 3, 6 or 12 months and they ship right to your door for less than you would pay for a sitter and a date night out on the town.
And I have to say, how amazing is it that your box can be waiting for you? All you and your spouse have to do is look for a small pocket of time and use your DateBox whenever you are ready!
Connect with one another for at least 20 minutes a day.
Whether you see each other for those 20 minutes or only get a phone call, be sure to find some way to connect with your spouse each and every day.
Daily check-ins are important for keeping you and your spouse on the same page and allowing you both to stay connected. Be sure to join my free resource library below so you can grab a copy of the Daily Check-In reminder sheet and what questions to ask your spouse during this time.
Overall, the biggest take away from this post is that you need to be intentional about finding time with your spouse. If you are feeling like your officer’s schedule is hard then you have to learn to work with it, not against it. Use the pockets of time that you do have instead of getting frustrated about the amount of time you don’t have.
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