The past thirteen years of my life has been spent being in a relationship with a police officer (dating and now married) and involved in police wife life. I remember the day my husband graduated from the academy. I remember looking at him with tears in my eyes, feeling so proud of his accomplishments and bravery. Those feelings remain but once we started having children, I began to resent my husband's job. The time away from one another, the worry and fear, some days I wondered if I was the only one with these feelings. Or did I just need to suck it up? (Which is not the answer, by Click for more
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Are the problems in my law enforcement marriage normal?
Sometimes the things we experience in our law enforcement marriage are rather unique. We may struggle because this lifestyle is new to us or because we find not many people relate to our specific situation. But it is important to remember that you married a man, or a woman, not a police officer. A police officer is their career choice. Yes, it may be one that shapes them or one that impacts your life in numerous ways, but overall, know that difficulties that arise in your relationship are NOT only because of this career path. The law enforcement lifestyle has shaped both my Click for more
You’re a police wife…now what?
I received compensation for this post from Once a Month Meals. All opinions are honest and my own. Welcome to the world of police wife life! You may be flooded with emotions right now having just gotten married, in a new relationship or your spouse just entering law enforcement AND trying to juggle living the law enforcement lifestyle. I can promise you, you are not alone. Sometimes we have so many questions that we don't know where to start or who to ask. Or we know something feels off or we feel overwhelmed and we wonder if what we are experiencing is "normal". These are all common Click for more
How to have a non-traditional Valentine’s Day
It's about that time of year when your newsfeed on Facebook is going to be flooded with these "perfect" looking Valentine's Day dates and gifts. Flowers, chocolates, surprise gifts and more. Yet, as first responder couples, we are usually at home, alone, while our officer's are working. Is it not discouraging to read all those lovey-dovey posts knowing you don't get to be with your loved one? In my early years as a police wife, I would feel down right lonely. Even though I would say Valentine's Day was a Hallmark holiday, in the back of my mind, I always wished I could be celebrating, Click for more
You Married a Man, not a Police Officer
My husband and I are high school sweethearts. We when began dating, he made mention of wanting to go into the field of law enforcement but I didn't think too hard about it. We were young, still in school and our careers (at that point in time) were not a hot topic. Time went on, we graduated, began going to college and my husband (then boyfriend) was still talking about law enforcement. More than just talking about it, getting a degree related to law enforcement and looking at agencies to apply to. I remember the feeling in the very beginning of being so damn proud (I still am). I wanted Click for more
How to Find Your New Normal in Police Wife Life
How to Find Your New Normal In Police Wife Life- 4 Steps to Take Today A guest post by Heather S. My husband is a police officer. I'm sure if you're reading this, yours is as well. Or, you're curious as to see why the police culture and life is a place where there is no normal? I am new to the law enforcement life. My husband wanted to be a police officer for a long time and even took a couple civil service tests thinking that was the way to get in. Long story short, he was a sheet metal worker for eight years and then became a satellite installation technician for Click for more
My Husband is Off Duty…Questions to NOT ask a Police Officer and His Family
It has happened to all of us. Those dreaded "police work" questions. You meet your husband for a quick bite to eat before his shift starts, he is in his uniform and his patrol car is parked outside. You get 20, quick minutes of "family time" and your husband is approached by a citizen asking for some quick advice. Or how about, your husband is off for the weekend (FINALLY!!) and your neighbors see his patrol car parked in your driveway. He quickly steps outside to check the mail but 20 minutes later he is still outside. He has been stopped by a neighbor, who is asking for "advice" on Click for more
Why Women Need to Build Each Other Up! (Not Tear Each Other Down)
Why Women Need to Build Each Other Up! (Not Tear Each Other Down) Why does it feel like being a woman is so hard these days? Is it just me? I hear so much judgement against other moms and women daily. Quite frankly, it is exhausting. Our conversations seem to circle around the same topics. Topics that make us feel judged for every decision we make. Topics that make us, women, feel like we must be superwomen, able to do it all and do it all perfectly! How often do you hear these topics in conversation? Do you breastfeed or formula feed? Are you a stay at home mom or working mom? Do you Click for more
Top 5 Ways to Know Your Husband Works Night Shift
At some point in your officer's law enforcement career, he will probably work night shift. It is almost inevitable. It takes a lot of adjustment on everyone's part (your husband, you as the police wife, your children, etc.) to get used to night shift. For us, the whole family dynamic changed. Schedules, events, you name it- it changed! Along with the changes of night shift, came new habits and routines. Interesting ones, to say the least. Unless you live a first responder life style, of some kind, you probably won't relate. Here are the most common ways to know if your husband works night Click for more
Finding Yourself Through LEOW Life and Motherhood
Both motherhood and being married to a police officer come with there own unique set of challenges. But when you are trying to navigate and balance both, at the same time, it is easy to feel like you get lost within those struggles. I had the opportunity to sit down and talk with Jillian from Beauty Sleep and Babies about her experiences as a new mom and fellow police wife. She was incredibly open about her journey of needing to find herself again because both LEOW life (law enforcement officer wife life) and motherhood took so much out of her. Jillian shared that it was definitely Click for more