How to Stay Strong When the Support for Law Enforcement is Weak
The current climate regarding law enforcement is down right scary. We hear it, we see it, we feel it. I feel like my only option is to talk about it today. I, too, feel angry and scared that our loved ones must walk into the unknown each and every day just for doing their jobs. It is wrong. I feel that the media is a huge driving force behind the lack of support for law enforcement. Stories are spun, lies are told, and law enforcement seems to be the most misunderstood career with violent repercussions.
As police wives, we stand by and watch all of this. We watch the media, we hear the stories, we see the look on our officer’s faces. All the while, ours fear are often kept inside. We can talk to our spouses about our fears, but at the same time, we don’t want to bring more light to a situation that is already a constant in their minds. It is important for us to find others who understand our fears, can relate to them, and work through them together. We need back up, no pun intended.
What we can do
All I can say is that we need to stay strong and stand united. We can not and will not let the fear associated with law enforcement be who we are. It will not define us. We are wives, we are police wives, we are blue line family. We have no choice but to find strength within and keep pressing on. I know you can do this. I know WE can do this.
Sometimes we are our own worst enemies. I know that because I do it, too. I used to hear sirens, scroll through my newsfeed and read breaking news. Stories and fears would remain in my head and I could not get them out. I could not move on, could not sleep and I was letting it ruin my day. Until one day I realized, it was getting me nowhere. At the end of the day, I was still filled with worry. It was utterly exhausting.
What I think you should do instead is try to make use of your time in a positive way and stay busy. You know what the world is like, but you are choosing to stay strong and not let “the world” break you.
You can do things like:
–Shut off the TV. Ignore the media as best as you can. Honestly. Remember this post is my opinion and my opinion is the media does more harm than good when it comes to law enforcement. We just can not succumb to the negative story lines. We have a life to live.
–Read books that are about police wife life but let you reflect in a healthy way. I am reading Cuffs & Coffee: A Devotional for Wives of America’s Law Enforcement Officers by Allison P. Uribe right now and each day I look forward to having my own time to reflect on this unique life. I put all my worry into the pages of this book, instead of in my life, and it seriously works.
–Give more support now than you ever have. I always show my husband and fellow officers support for their daily sacrifice. But with today’s climate, it is time to amp it up. I do not ever want to my officer to feel like he has no support- EVER! Before he walks out the door, each and every day, I want him to feel my love and support for him, without uncertainty.
Please don’t let this fear and worry consume you. Let faith in. Have trust in the amazing officer you are married to. Believe that if we continue to rise above, be positive and spread love, the greater good will one day prevail and shine through. All of this may not turn the world around over night, but little by little, over time, we CAN make a difference.
Keep on trucking and sometimes you just have to keep your head down to be able to move forward.
Above all, stay strong and stay united.
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