WHY I DELETED HALF OF MY FACEBOOK FRIENDS
News Flash: We aren’t in high school anymore. That was eons ago. We don’t have to befriend everyone and continue to be friends with them for all of eternity. Your life and relationships should not be a popularity contest. What we are are grown adults, living in a world that desperately needs positivity. We live in a world that craves security, safety, and peace.
A few years ago, I had the realization that we have different friends during different phases of our lives. Friends from your younger years and school days. A different set of friends during high school and maybe into college. You then meet your “grown up” friends in different ways: your job, through having children, moving. I doubt you have stayed in contact with all of these friends throughout each phase of your life. You may have not had a falling out, but just out grew them. Your paths crossed during an important time in each others lives but time is no constant, so you move on. There are probably a select few, only a small handful, that you still stay in continual contact with. Possibly college roommates or best friends from high school.
Nowadays, you meet so many people in life that chances are, you friend them on social media. You locate friends from your past and catch up or reminisce. “Those were the good ‘ole days.”
Nothing wrong with any of that. I do that, too.
Something else I do? “Unfriend” people or stop “following” them. Why do I need to stay in contact or “Facebook contact” with people that I no longer have relationships with?
So what prompted me to have this realization?
I was scrolling through my facebook feed one day. Saw that one of my “friends” that I had no communication with for YEARS, was talking badly about law enforcement. Yep. The very people that she would call during an emergency, she is bashing. I hit “block” faster than you can blink. I can absolutely hold different beliefs as people and still be friends with them. One thing I can not compromise on, is my husband’s career. Hearing or seeing negativity associated with police is something I can not and will not stand for. We all have non-negotiables in life and this is mine.
Later that day, I unfriended close to 50% of my friends on Facebook. IT FELT SO GOOD! Not because they have different views as me, but because we don’t actually talk anymore. Most of those people were from a different phase of my life. Saying goodbye can actually be that easy: only one click away!
Why am I saying this to you?
You don’t have to compromise who you are. Minimalism in life is healthy. Surround yourself with healthy (emotionally), happy, positive people. Decide what your non-negotiables are.
So remember, it is not a competition. You don’t have to have more facebook friends than your neighbor. It is okay to close doors, say goodbye to people, and click “unfriend”. Don’t allow people in that go against your non-negotiables. #preachpeace
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