Whether you are new to being married to a police officer, just dating one, a veteran spouse, or trying to figure out if this lifestyle is for you or not, it can sometimes feel scary.
But I am here to tell you it doesn’t have to be. Not all the time anyway.
Are there aspects associated with a police officer’s job that are worrisome? Yes, of course. But does your whole life need to be centered around doom and gloom? Absolutely, not, my friend!
I know that conversations with friends and family, turning on the news and scrolling social media can bring unwanted thoughts and put you down a rabbit hole of negativity, but if you are looking for some positivity and you are ready to kick those negative thoughts to the side, then you’ve come to the right place.
Let’s talk! There are SO many positives but I will touch on just a few in today’s episode.
Being Married to a Police Officer is Not Always Scary and Here is Why:
We get to be married to/love someone that is selfless and literally runs towards danger
I mean how incredible is that? Not many people sign up to give to others like police officers do. And then to love that person knowing they possess those qualities? It is beyond admirable!
You get time off together when it is less busy
I know a downside for many is that police officers work a lot of weekends and holidays.
But guess what? That means they are also off during the week when other people are working and in school. That means less crowds, less traffic and if you are traveling, hotel/plane fees are often cheaper.
Even if your schedules collide a bit, I promise you, if you are intentional about finding time to be together, you will. We have always made time for each other, our families and holiday gatherings.
It is so important to be able to look for those little pockets of time when you can be together even if that is during the middle of the week at 10 am for an hour.
Remember: while it can be an adjustment, it is OKAY to have your schedule be different than it used to be, different from other people, and different from 9-5 friends and family.
You gain a lot of situational awareness
Sounds like a silly example but it is true! Being married to a police officer has made me so much more aware of my surroundings and the reality of certain situations.
My husband has taught me so many things to look out for or be cognizant of when I am alone or with our children. It has made me feel safer and more independent.
Funny enough, I have even picked up on other things from my husband like how to quickly look at a license plate in certain situations. LOL!
You gain support from an entire law enforcement community
Whether the support is in your hometown or halfway across the country, law enforcement families have your back!
There are so many ways now whether it is in Facebook groups, on social media, my mentor matching program (be sure to follow me on Instagram to learn more about it and when it is open again) to meet fellow law enforcement families.
Support doesn’t mean you have to be best friends with the other spouses at the department. Support can be in the form of a text message, phone call, Facetime or the Marco Polo app, email, and much more!
You can use the time when your spouse is working as time for YOURSELF
Listen, you can either dread the days/hours that your spouse is working and you are alone or you can embrace it.
Embracing it means you can use that alone time to truly pour into yourself. Your spouse wouldn’t want you at home bored out of your mind. So why would you?
Instead, use that time to eat the foods you love, watch the shows you want, take up a new hobby, be with friends and family, run your errands.
So when your spouse is off work and home, you can have quality time together without feeling like you aren’t making time for yourself.
The point is here, you can be intentional about using your time. Prioritize time for yourself then prioritize time together with your spouse when your schedule allows for it. It makes a difference.
Overall, please remember that as humans we process things as they are presented to us. If we take in too much “scary” information then our response will be to run away or put up warning signs.
Take it one day at a time. Don’t automatically ingest one negative thing after another or go down a rabbit hole of what could go wrong in life.
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